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Act II and You!

Submitted by on February 7, 2016 - 7:43 pm

The past few years have been tough ones one me. My marriage, of over a decade, came to an end, and moving from that family unit to something new has been a big transition for all of those involved. And although I’m usually a fan of the spotlight, and inspiring others to go after their dreams, all that I felt that I could do was retreat, heal, and gain new purpose. That was not easy for me. In fact, I spent a lot of time feeling like a disappointment to others, and a fake. Here I was the self-proclaimed “Good Life Guru”, who had spent years inspiring people to dream big, go after their dreams and believe that anything is possible and I wasn’t even sure how I was going to handle my new life and role, as a single mother, (and someone who had failed at something very sacred – her marriage.)

I’ve now come to accept my life experiences as part of an ever changing journey, which sometimes moves quite quickly, and other times feels absolutely stuck. I’ve learned that although there is often a lot of noise and many expectations around me, as it turns out I can actually be my own worst critic. And when that happens I know that it’s time for me to retreat, recharge and re-assess.

So, I have spent a lot of time thinking about what I have accomplished in life, and where I want to go next, my Act II. And I feel that where I need to be right now is writing, and speaking, about learning from experiences, trusting your instincts, and recognizing and harnessing your power within.

I invite you to take a moment to retreat, recharge and re-assess what it is that YOU would like out of your life in 2016, and beyond. Ask yourself what is serving, and what no longer serves, you. Listen to your heart. And make any necessary changes to move towards your La Buena Life.

Here’s to Act II!

 

8 Comments»

  • Andrea says:
    March 7, 2016 at 2:11 pm

    Hi Ana ~
    I’m sorry to hear about your loss and difficulty. I feel like you are my friend and cheery companion on my television set, leading me faithfully through your Pilates beginner Mat workout. Unlike other video workouts I’ve tried, you are focused on wellness (not vanity) and have a lightness about you that reminds me to keep my sense of humor. Always a good think to remember!
    May you know the love of God and others and your navigate this difficult transition. God bless.
    Andrea

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    Ana Caban says:
    May 28, 2016 at 1:22 am

    Thank you Andrea. I’m glad that I have been able to keep you moving, with my Beginner Mat Workout. Yes, having a sense of humor while doing Pilates, and in life (in general), is always advisable.

    In health & happiness,

    Ana

  • Naomi says:
    March 13, 2016 at 1:50 pm

    Ana – just wanted to say that your Pilates videos were the best thing that ever happened to my body, and 99% of the reason was your calm, cheerful, and inspiring personality (the other 1% were the moves!). I just randomly googled you and found this post. I’m sorry to hear about your divorce, but I just wanted to say you seem like an amazing person and I’m confident you will kick ass in your next stage of life. Thank you for being an awesome role model.

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    Ana Caban says:
    May 28, 2016 at 1:20 am

    Thank you Naomi. I appreciate your kind words and support. I’m also glad that you have enjoyed working out with me.

    Wishing you all the best.

    Ana

  • Kim says:
    April 3, 2016 at 1:21 am

    Ana, Very sorry to hear of your loss. Almost ten years ago, my relationship of 13 years fell apart. You are right – take the time to rest and to mourn your loss, nurture yourself and your child, assess and recharge. Find your inner strength.

    Something you said above struck a cord with me. I found in my own experience that it is important to recognize that it is rare that one person is completely responsible for the end of a marriage. Usually both partners could have handled some situations better. The failure isn’t all yours. I don’t know what happened in your situation, but in my own it was important at some point after some time had passed, for us to forgive ourselves and each other, acknowledging that we were both responsible. It’s hard to see that when you’re in the middle of that downward spiral as things fall apart.

    I began pilates 12 years ago and took your videos with me across country during that time of mourning and healing. I am still practicing pilates today and your intermediate video is my go-to. Wishing you the best as you move forward.

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    Ana Caban says:
    May 28, 2016 at 1:19 am

    Kim,

    Thank you for your kind words. Yes, it does take two to tango. I acknowledge my part in the unraveling of my marriage. And I am super aware of what I need to do to make my new marriage last.

    Ana

  • Ally Mckean says:
    April 22, 2016 at 8:16 am

    Hi Ana,

    Thanks so much for sharing such a personal part of your life.

    So many people including myself will find your story comforting in that no matter where we are in life we all find times where it’s hard to go on.

    Having said that you’ve raised another really important point in the process of getting one’s life back on track – as you’ve described, retreat, recharge and re-assess.

    Here’s to your 2016! And mine! 🙂

    Ally

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    Ana Caban says:
    May 28, 2016 at 1:17 am

    Thank you Ally. I appreciate your support.

    Ana

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