The Raw Truth
Submitted by Ana Caban on July 31, 2016 - 5:32 pm
Life works in mysterious ways. And sometimes it just doesn’t make sense. One thing that I have realized is that eventually it works itself out, and often setbacks actually help you re-evaluate your life, and chart a new course.
I recently had a big setback in my personal life. While I could have allowed it to totally derail me, I didn’t. I’m not going to lie. I did isolate myself, become introspective, cry a lot, sleep and eventually came out of that dark place. Though at this point in time, I cannot yet clearly see the lesson in the event I can take solace in, and give gratitude for, the beauty of the relationship until that point. I say this not to impress you, but to impress upon you that there is often a lesson to be learned, and something to be grateful for.
Who knew that my marriage to my “King”, (as the minister referred to him), would end so quickly? Or that he would decide that he was no longer cut out to be married to someone, and required to compromise on things, “for as long as we both shall live”? Not me! Just 4 months after our beautiful wedding in Montego Bay, Jamaica, my husband decided that he no longer wanted to be my life partner.
One Friday night, just a few weeks ago, he sat me down and said, “We have to talk”. I was shocked, dumbfounded. No, that’s not true. I was completely blindsided. Actually felt like I was hit by Mack truck. (Didn’t see that coming.) And for the first 3 weeks I went through the 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Five stages that I’m sure that I will revisit, again. But something happened after that third week. I just got tired of crying. It was time to stop my personal pity party and decide what I wanted next, what life without my new husband would look like, and that’s what led me to this blog post. While our romance and wedding were beautiful and like a fantasy, when the dust settled from my husband’s departure I was right back where I actually want to be, which is providing value to YOU!
What truly inspires me most is bringing joy, positivity, inspiration and motivation to you! I hadn’t been doing that for quite some time, and this morning, (while doing my workout), it became very evident that I am most fulfilled, when I am providing value to others.
So, please stay connected with me. As much as I love giving to you, I love receiving your support and encouragement. I’m excited to say that starting tomorrow, August 1st, I’ll be doing daily FB Live broadcasts on my Ana Caban Fan Page. Tune in Monday through Friday for your daily dose of inspiration, motivation and positivity, with my La Buena Bites. I can’t wait to connect with you there!