What’s the Word?
Submitted by Ana Caban on January 14, 2017 - 10:09 pm
Happy New Year (albeit a bit belated). I hope that 2017 has started off even better than you had expected. It certainly has for me! Last year started out great, however midway through the year it took a turn for the worst and I’ve spent the past 6 months trying to pull myself out of that funk. Yes, I said it. I, Ana Cabán, was in a funk from July 1 – December 31st, 2016. Not only was I in a funk but I kept myself super busy, busy distracting myself from the hurt and pain of my new husband deciding that he actually didn’t want to me married. (If you missed that blog post you can catch up here.) Why am I sharing all of this with you, you might ask. I’ll tell you.
As I complete my 46th circle around the sun I, like you, have been through my share of ups and downs in life. Whether they were personal, professional, romantic, or family-oriented, there has always been a “takeaway” from each experience. Now, I’m not going to lie and say that I always knew why something had happened, or why I had to experience it. I didn’t, and I don’t. In fact, there are still a few life experiences that I am still can’t quite to wrap my head around. But what I will say is that I have learned to reflect on these experiences and life lessons in preparation for the future. That’s why at the end of each year I always carve out time to do a couple of things:
- Clean out the house
I go through and get rid of things that I no longer use, or wear, or that no longer serve me. It’s basically spring cleaning in December. And I love it! There’s nothing like making space for new, and exciting things to enter. And the only way to do that is to truly make space, literally! My general rule is that if I have not used, nor worn the item, in the past year out it goes! Never purged like that? Try it! It’s liberating, I promise!
- Reflect and prepare/anticipate
The second thing that I do is take some time to reflect on the year that is coming to a close. What went well, what went poorly and what could I have done differently? And most importantly, what do I want in the new year?
This year I added a third ritual. I decided to come up with a word for 2017. I know what 2016 represented for me. But 2016 is over now. Now it’s time to focus on the New Year, this year! So I decided to come up with a word for my 2017.
The word that jumped to the front of my mind was “kindness”. As I mentioned, I spent half of 2016 pushing myself to be busy, so that I didn’t have to deal with the pain that I was feeling. But what ended up happening was that I just delayed the pain and suffering and was very stressed out in the process. I constantly felt like I was not living up to my own expectations. (We’re our own worst critics, you know?). It was frustrating and exhausting, and I knew that I couldn’t keep that up in the New Year. So I’ve decided to make this year my year of kindness (and healing). I promise to be kind to myself. Instead of adding to my “to do” list I will focus on my “let go” list. (What can I remove from my list?). And you know what? It’s working. I’ve been feeling great! I have more energy and am much more optimistic about my future than I have in ages!
As we start of this new, and exciting year, I invite you to take some time to clean your house (really purge), as well as reflect on last year.
And then take a moment and think about a word for 2017. YOUR word for 2017! What will this year mean to you? (Please share below.)